One question leads to two and then to Grace

As it is warming up and we are having a fantastic spring; we are finding ourselves at more events.  I love the SCA. I love the dressing up, the Tourneys, feasts, sewing, socializing, eating, camaraderie and joy of being "lost in time". 

 My darling husband marshaling the field during the main tourney. 

 Me, sitting under my pavilion, embroidering in the company of good friends. :-)  I love hanging out with these ladies. We giggle so much!

As we are getting into the full swing of event season here, I have been pondering the thought of what makes a Lady.  What inspires the gentlemen of sca to Chivalry?  Well, as is practical I posted just that question on one of our fb group pages. And that first question pretty much ended with this answer : "1. Be honest to herself first and foremost and to others. 2. Be courageous, for true courage is in the heart and in day to day things, not only for the battlefield. 3. Be at ease with who and what she is, for the ability to "be" comfortable in your own skin is a rare and beautiful thing 4. Be intelligent, for it is the trait that most distinguishes ourselves from others. 5. Honor herself, her deeds, and accomplishments but move passed them, for they are done and she needs to live in the moment, but our personal past makes us what we are. 6. Have faith in herself, for a person who believes in who and what they are can be a force of nature. 7. Have humility to understand that any of us no matter how great is still just human. Humility is a quiet beauty that gives grace to all who possess it."
 In this answer I see Honesty, Conviction, Confidence, and Humility as the main driving forces.  I think one could add Grace; not in movement, but in attitude.  I think we are lacking in Grace and are having an over abundance of ego in our Society today.  Maybe the issues we as ladies are having in our Society, is not with Chivalric behavior, (or lack) but of Courtly behavior (or lack).  Maybe we would be better as a Society if we explained that we expected daily "Courtly" behavior. But then, that lead to the thought back to what do the Fighters expect to see from the Ladies?  Which lead me to ask them about icons.  Who do they personally think of as the modern embodiment of a Lady?  I got many answers I was expecting, and a few new to me names.  However there was a common factor with all icons. Grace.  Grace is the sum of that answer, but not in a straight line. 
Honesty + Conviction + Confidence + Humility + Hospitality = Grace. 
One must live and breath these traits....No, let me rephrase that. I desire to live and breath these traits. 
Let me say that again. 
I desire to live and breath my life as an embodiment of Grace in what I say and do. Both in and out of the SCA.
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